Some people say “how can you expect someone to love you if you don’t love yourself?”
I think the real issue here is how can you be selfish and cruel enough to expect someone to love you if you don’t love yourself? If they love you the harm that you do to yourself harms them. I causes them grief to watch how the thing they love destroys the thing they love. Its a helpless grief because they can’t do away with what is harming that which they love because it IS the thing that they love.
Love yourself first… for the sake of the person that loves you.